There is something sacred in being seen—not merely noticed, but truly seen. For us who are trans, nonbinary, and neurodivergent, that kind of recognition does not come easily. It is not something the world gives us readily. We search for it. Sometimes frantically. And when we find it, in communities like Leather Family, it is like coming home.
When I initially stepped into Leather space, I did not know exactly what I was looking for. I knew I was starving for structure and connection, something more intimate than community but deeper than friendship. I needed to be in a place where my gender was not up for debate, where my neurodivergence was not "too much," and where I did not have to justify the rhythm of my energy or the way my brain moved with intensity and softness.
I learned that in Leather Family.
For me, Leather Family isn't about shared kinks or protocol—it's about shared accountability, radical acceptance, and unconditional presence. It's where I can take off my boots (or shine someone else's) and be certain that I'm not being evaluated on how fast I can take in information or whether my gender presentation is readable that day. I am received as a whole person. In fact, I'm revered.
To be in Leather Family is to have the possibility of serving in a way that honors both my strengths and my weaknesses. I am given space to lead and space to fall apart. I have learned the beauty of consent as a sexual practice, but also as a way of being in relation—how we negotiate care, boundaries, and belonging.
As a neurodivergent individual, the Leather dynamics' structure, roles, and rituals are an anchor in a world that would otherwise be overwhelming. As a trans and nonbinary individual, to be in Leather Family is to be with people who not only validate my identity but understand it on an intuitive level. It's a space where my gender isn't an afterthought. It's a source of my power.
Leather Family, for me, is built on intention. We choose each other. We invest. We grow together. And that chosen kinship—especially in a world that reminds us so often we're alone—is a lifeline.
To be part of a Leather Family is to be told, over and over again, that you are worthy of love, service, joy, and purpose—just as you are.
If you're navigating identity, community, or healing and looking for a space that honors all of who you are, Inclusive Therapy Group is here for you.
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